“Midlife crisis. Midlife Blues. Midlife Dissatisfaction”… with such negative labels attached to midlife way before we get there, it’s no wonder “midlife” has become one of those labels we want to brush aside as not applying to us when we eventually reach that midlife marker in our own lives!
And yet, as we inevitably have to face this time of momentous change, that midlife “spaghetti mindset” as I call it – with its swirls and spirals of tangled thoughts and niggling doubts – almost inadvertently and imperceptibly, kicks into action:
“I’m so lost now that my children have left home, what on earth am I meant to do with my life?”
“Great! I’ve been made redundant ! Who on earth is going to take me on at my age? What am I going to do?”
“If I’m honest, I hate my job/body/partner/life in general – I so wish I had the guts to do something about it but what would I do? Where would I go? Best stay here then I guess…”
Or as you feel the sands of change shift beneath your feet due to a major life-changing event such as divorce or loss of job:
“Everything’s changing so fast I feel like I’m losing control and losing my mind and my “happily-ever-after” life I’d so lovingly nurtured is evaporating before my eyes… what’s it all been about? Who the hell am I? ”
And so, resigned and yet somehow ashamed that you have morphed into another “middle-aged” woman with all these “midlife symptoms” – you just clam up and get on with it the best you can, particularly if you have been one of those women who has given and given and put the needs of others before her own up until now.
…But what happens when you clam up?
When we don’t communicate what’s going on inside us, it impacts negatively on our bodies, minds and souls. Anxiety, insomnia, snapping at our loved ones, over-drinking, over-eating, feeling helpless, hopeless and exhausted. Or trapped and strangled and feeling numb inside, if we are the type of woman who just gets on with it and is used to switching off and operating on auto-pilot when the going gets tough.
Well, what if I told you it doesn’t have to be like this? That you don’t have to be another midlife statistic?
You see, I have a totally different take on midlife I want to share with you.
Having overcome my own momentous midlife challenge as a result of my shock divorce 10 years ago, I see it as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to reinvent a fabulous future for ourselves as women, after years of putting others first and conforming to society’s expectations.
We all have issues and our own life story that creates these; the difference is what we do about it. Do we stay in the drama of change and upheaval? Resign ourselves to staying in a place of unhappiness because we are too afraid to rock the boat?
Or do we choose to reinvent our lives by recovering the courage to be ourselves and live out our dreams?
I believe that all these feelings and questions that come up at this stage of momentous change – are simply symptoms of our inner goddess demanding to take centre stage – but it’s all too easy to get sucked into the drama and the shame of having all these revolutionary feelings and thoughts.
As a Midlife Empowerment Coach, my passion is to inspire women like you to recover the courage to be yourself and reinvent a fabulous future that will have you sailing into the sunset of your dreams!
Midlife is a magnificent opportunity to let go of the stories that have been holding you back. It’s a time for you to evolve from mother and wife into a woman who is ready to delve into her inner being, let go of the inner critic, the lack of self worth and feelings of not being good enough.
Now is the time to connect with your inner child and become the woman you were born to be with a sense of peace and purpose, before you undertook all those responsibilities of looking after everyone else and somehow losing ‘you’ in the process. I know from experience, how over time, we become so concerned with those around us, we really do forget who we are and who we used to be.
Don’t become another midlife statistic – you are not society’s labels but a unique and powerful woman! Any fear you might be feeling that has coincided with your midlife is nothing but a natural reaction to facing something new – it is this fear that keeps you in your outworn reality.
But if you can face this fear by uncovering the source of it to eliminate any self-limiting beliefs you may have once and for all – you will recover the courage to be yourself – and then there’ll be no stopping you!
So go for it! Embrace and Celebrate your midlife coming of age! …It’s your life – it’s time to live it YOUR way!