How to cope when your child flies the nest for the first time – a mother’s perspective…

When I dropped off my son at university yesterday to start his second year, I did so with a happy heart but at the same time, my heart went out to all you parents who are facing the immense change to your family unit when you wake up this week to the reality that your first-born has finally flown the nest. Now that all the packing and hectic preparations of the past few weeks are over and you’ve finally waved goodbye to your fledgling adult, the first few days and weeks – silent home, no dirty laundry and piles of ironing, no meals to cook, no ferrying around – can leave you feeling somehow purposeless and adrift. I just want…

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Embrace and Celebrate your midlife “coming of age”!

“Midlife crisis. Midlife Blues. Midlife Dissatisfaction”… with such negative labels attached to midlife way before we get there, it’s no wonder “midlife” has become one of those labels we want to brush aside as not applying to us when we eventually reach that midlife marker in our own lives! And yet, as we inevitably have to face this time of momentous change, that midlife “spaghetti mindset” as I call it –  with its swirls and spirals of tangled thoughts  and niggling doubts – almost inadvertently and imperceptibly, kicks into action: “I’m so lost now that my children have left home, what on earth am I meant to do with my life?” “Great! I’ve been made redundant ! Who on earth…

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