A mini-voyage through the 7 C’s to stay cool, calm and connected this Christmas!

COMMUNICATE – not doing so can cause so many misunderstandings and upsets at this time of year.  When you’re feeling overwrought – ask for help – you’ll be amazed at how many people are on standby just waiting to be asked. Trust in the goodwill of humankind and if you’re feeling lonely – reach out. CLARITY – in the lead up to Christmas, particularly if you’ve taken on the role of family organiser – it is easy to get muddled and befuddled. Take some time out for YOU every day – meditate, go for a walk in nature, have a good soak in the bath. When we take time to care for ourselves, we build up our reserves to take…

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How to cope when your child flies the nest for the first time – a mother’s perspective…

When I dropped off my son at university yesterday to start his second year, I did so with a happy heart but at the same time, my heart went out to all you parents who are facing the immense change to your family unit when you wake up this week to the reality that your first-born has finally flown the nest. Now that all the packing and hectic preparations of the past few weeks are over and you’ve finally waved goodbye to your fledgling adult, the first few days and weeks – silent home, no dirty laundry and piles of ironing, no meals to cook, no ferrying around – can leave you feeling somehow purposeless and adrift. I just want…

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FROM SICKBED TO SUNBED – how to avoid coming down with leisure sickness this summer!

If you´re one of those people who is generally healthy throughout the year but somehow always gets sick every time you go on holiday or at the weekend – it seems that you’re not alone and could be suffering from a condition known as “leisure sickness”. This term was first coined by Dutch psychologist Ad Vingerhoets, whose research showed that those who had a stressful job or an ultra-busy life spent running around after others and found it hard to disconnect, were more likely to be afflicted. Symptoms typically include headaches, migraines, fatigue and aching muscles, culminating in cold and flu-like symptoms in the worst-case scenarios, which end up ruining the whole point of taking a break in the first…

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FREE YOURSELF FROM MIDLIFE’S FEAR OF CHANGE AND STEP INTO FREEDOM!

I was listening to a radio programme the other day in which a group of women were discussing what midlife meant to them and how they were dealing with all the major changes that we as women have to face at this stage in our lives – coping with the changes that are taking place in our bodies, the inevitable breakdown of our family unit as we know it as our children fly the nest and how having more time on our hands leads us to question who we are – which can lead to an existential crisis that leaves us questioning everything from our relationship, to our job, to our very identity. With all these thoughts and questions swirling…

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Overcome that feeling of empty nest emptiness & distress!

Having driven my eldest son back to university last week and with my younger son back at school next week, I decided to kick start my “Don’t sleepwalk through 2017 ” Facebook theme for this is year, by posting a video discussing the so-called “empty nest syndrome”. While I have to confess to feeling relieved that there’s one less person in the house to feel responsible for, this wasn’t the case for me last year when the son I so cheerfully waved off on Sunday, took a gap year after his A’levels to travel and spend an extensive period with his father thousands of miles away.  While I still had my younger son with me, this was the first time…

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Are you suffocated by your anxiety? It´s time to take your head out of the sand!

What does the word anxiety mean to you? While it’s no doubt something different for each person, I think it’s safe to say, we´ve all been afflicted by some form of anxiety during our lives. The dictionary describes “anxiety” as “a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease about something with an uncertain outcome”. Emotions are the body’s reaction to the mind. So when that anxious ‘monkey mind’ is on the rampage and working in overdrive that is the moment to bring yourself back to the NOW. When we are feeling anxious and worried our mind is far from the present moment – it is focusing on a “What if this …. happens, what if … doesn’t happen” stream of consciousness.…

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