Midlife regrets? or Gratitude?

Midlife regrets? Do I have any?  I often think about this –  as looking back over the years I´ve been on this planet,  I could have hundreds of regrets. You could say my life got off to a pretty disfunctional start – being that I was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck, not once, but twice! Bit of a funny story about how my parents got married …They have actually known each other since my mother was 8 years old, due to their parents being friends. My mother married my father in her lunch hour when she was 21 yrs old, told her father 3 days later who was furious, had 4 children in 6 years and then got divorced.…

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5 tips to help you to stick to your New Year’s resolutions

A very Happy New Year to you all!  And with a new year, a chance to put all those changes into action that you’ve resolved to make this year – well, at least that’s the plan right now… They say that 92% of people have given up on their New Year’s resolutions by the end of this month, so if you’d like to be one of the 8% that sticks to whatever it is you have resolved to change, here are 5 tips… 1.- THINK ABOUT WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY WANT TO CHANGE Even if you’ve already made a list – I urge you to find somewhere quiet to sit with these things you’ve resolved to change and make…

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A mini-voyage through the 7 C’s to stay cool, calm and connected this Christmas!

COMMUNICATE – not doing so can cause so many misunderstandings and upsets at this time of year.  When you’re feeling overwrought – ask for help – you’ll be amazed at how many people are on standby just waiting to be asked. Trust in the goodwill of humankind and if you’re feeling lonely – reach out. CLARITY – in the lead up to Christmas, particularly if you’ve taken on the role of family organiser – it is easy to get muddled and befuddled. Take some time out for YOU every day – meditate, go for a walk in nature, have a good soak in the bath. When we take time to care for ourselves, we build up our reserves to take…

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FACE YOUR MIDLIFE FEAR AND SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS – FAKE NEWS!

Fear is Fake News

Are you living your midlife in a state of constant gnawing anxiety that’s stopping you from functioning properly and affecting your health and relationships?  Well, what if I were to tell you that feeling fearful is a good thing? And quite normal too. And no, you’re not a coward for admitting that you are – the first step to overcoming your fearful state is to face the why’s… MIDLIFE CHANGES CAN TRIGGER FEAR The thing with midlife, is that all these major “out of our comfort zone changes”, seem to happen all at once – children flying the nest, separations/divorces, changes or loss of job, having to take on the responsibility of looking after an elderly parent… And change, any…

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Empty nester blues? How changing your mindset, could transform you from redundant Supermum into SuperYou!

Over a month has passed since I wrote my last blog about how to cope when your child flies the nest for the first time and as promised, am checking in with you again to ask how you’re getting on. Assuming that your young-adult is getting along just fine without you – have YOU been enjoying your freedom from parental care duties after all these years? Or are you still walking around the house bereft, sitting in your child’s empty room and at a loss as to what to do, now that your primary role in life as a full-time parent has come to its natural conclusion? It seems that those who have been a totally hands-on parent to the…

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How to cope when your child flies the nest for the first time – a mother’s perspective…

When I dropped off my son at university yesterday to start his second year, I did so with a happy heart but at the same time, my heart went out to all you parents who are facing the immense change to your family unit when you wake up this week to the reality that your first-born has finally flown the nest. Now that all the packing and hectic preparations of the past few weeks are over and you’ve finally waved goodbye to your fledgling adult, the first few days and weeks – silent home, no dirty laundry and piles of ironing, no meals to cook, no ferrying around – can leave you feeling somehow purposeless and adrift. I just want…

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How you can put a stop to family strife stress

With most of us right in the thick of the family summer holidays, whether with young children in our charge or adolescents who have flown the nest or are about to, all this sudden being thrown together for 24 hours a day, when we are used to having our own space to be our individual selves out of our family scenario, is bound to increase tensions. While it’s normal and healthy that disagreements arise within a family quite simply because we are all so wonderfully different – when it escalates into a full- blown argument with shouts and nasty words spoken, the stress this causes can become unbearable and all this bottled-up unexpressed stress, can end up making us physically…

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FROM SICKBED TO SUNBED – how to avoid coming down with leisure sickness this summer!

If you´re one of those people who is generally healthy throughout the year but somehow always gets sick every time you go on holiday or at the weekend – it seems that you’re not alone and could be suffering from a condition known as “leisure sickness”. This term was first coined by Dutch psychologist Ad Vingerhoets, whose research showed that those who had a stressful job or an ultra-busy life spent running around after others and found it hard to disconnect, were more likely to be afflicted. Symptoms typically include headaches, migraines, fatigue and aching muscles, culminating in cold and flu-like symptoms in the worst-case scenarios, which end up ruining the whole point of taking a break in the first…

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FREE YOURSELF FROM MIDLIFE’S FEAR OF CHANGE AND STEP INTO FREEDOM!

I was listening to a radio programme the other day in which a group of women were discussing what midlife meant to them and how they were dealing with all the major changes that we as women have to face at this stage in our lives – coping with the changes that are taking place in our bodies, the inevitable breakdown of our family unit as we know it as our children fly the nest and how having more time on our hands leads us to question who we are – which can lead to an existential crisis that leaves us questioning everything from our relationship, to our job, to our very identity. With all these thoughts and questions swirling…

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Embrace and Celebrate your midlife “coming of age”!

“Midlife crisis. Midlife Blues. Midlife Dissatisfaction”… with such negative labels attached to midlife way before we get there, it’s no wonder “midlife” has become one of those labels we want to brush aside as not applying to us when we eventually reach that midlife marker in our own lives! And yet, as we inevitably have to face this time of momentous change, that midlife “spaghetti mindset” as I call it –  with its swirls and spirals of tangled thoughts  and niggling doubts – almost inadvertently and imperceptibly, kicks into action: “I’m so lost now that my children have left home, what on earth am I meant to do with my life?” “Great! I’ve been made redundant ! Who on earth…

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